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- Environment/our World
it be possible to be a realist?
there facts, or only interpretation?
is a transformational change?
be or not to be? That is the question!
do we live in a world with secretes?
How can we know that
our goals and intentions are our true calling?
Is knowledge objective?
Is truth objective?
How you know that one's
philosophy is the best of all which have been taught?
Is it really the philosophers'
task to change the world?
What gives a man freedom?
What is life?
What should I do with my
What do you want out of
How can we achieve
What is life without love?
What is the best source
What matters the most
in your life?
Is it ever morally permissible
Miseries of Truth? What
disadvantages you face to be a truthful person?
If you knew one thing
to change the course of the world forever, what would you do?
Is the only thing we have
to fear - fear itself?
Does our mind have absolute
or free will?
Is it possible to expand
the intellectual base?
Why do people believe that
the story they tell themselves is truth?
What is better: Giving
or receiving? And why?
Do you believe that some
things can only occur once in a person's life time?
We have Rights
but what about Responsibility?
Can we prevent death, disease
and old age?
Why do people project
their miseries on others and cannot see that they are their own miserable
How we can find out
what is our own self image and concepts about life?
Can a fool ask more questions
that 3 wise men can answer?
agree with the idea of 'questioning everything'?
What is the meaning of
What is the point
in life? I just don't get it.
What is the purpose
of life? On which point must a person concentrate?
Do you think life
is worth living without love?
What is the one
thing necessary for a meaningful life?
Why am I
so caught up on finding meaning in my life?
Have you found
meaning in life?
Do you believe that things
happen for a reason?
How do you define
What makes you want
How did you find
Do you feel guilty
when you do nothing?
Am I missing
out on life?
What are the factor
that are responsible for the creation of a persons personality?
Why am I not happy? I have
everything a person could want?
The more conscious we
become the more we die and the more alive we become?
do you free yourself?
the concept of personality!
do we know what reality is if the way we look at the world is limited by
our brain and our senses?
a 'Positive Attitude' the basic condition for a better Tomorrow?
do you become fully aware of yourself and your surrounding?
Why we always face problems?
Why does silence make
Why stupid, ignorant
people are happier then conscious ones?
What is your definition
of a normal person?
Why do people need a label?
Why do I always feel sad?
Can a person change
ones personality completely?
I am a man - but feel and
think like a woman - what should I do?
My life is going down
hill, I just don't know what to do anymore!
What should one do when
Why am I the way I am?
How can we be free from
How do you deal with
How do you change something
bad about you?
Do some other people seem
like robots to you?
I still feel something
Forms of self-expression?
What is the opposite
What is the best
way to use our tools of observation to drop our conditioning?
How can a person have
a better attitude and be optimistic?
What do you know now,
that you wish you knew when you were younger?
When someone says it's
human nature, what does this mean?
Give me advice on how
to be myself!
What is society's culture
concept of God makes it difficult to experience God?
ancient definition of god is what man could not explain?
What is God?
What is ‘soul’? Are you
a soul in your body?
Why do people question
others and their beliefs?
Are you a religious
or a spiritual person?
is'disease' really, not what we have been told?
a serious ill person refuses medical treatment, can this be seen as self
there a way to heal my inguinal hernia without surgery?
Anyone agree all those
medicine drugs are not good?
Why do people smoke? They
think it looks cool?
How can I grow tall like
7 ft or like 6'9"?
Could my elimination
of meat & food additives really be what's improving my chronic fatigue
What are some alternative
therapies for Fibromyalgia?
What are some solutions
to the organ donor shortage?
and Stress Release:
Can meditation induce
greater self consciousness?
can I meditate more effectively?
Can't meditate, my mind
is full of thoughts. What should I do to get rid of thoughts?
Why we get into stress?
conflict be managed? If so how?
should I do?
is everything as is? Can I be guilt free of a self-destructing humanity?
we our own enemy?
Why there are so many conflict
situations in daily life?
Why people are violent
How do you cope with everything
life throws at you?
What do you do when you
really need to talk to someone but can't find anybody safe?
alone or together with others:
Living alone or
living with others?
can we make this world a better place to live in. A place full of life,
full of forgiveness and full of love?
Have you ever felt the
urge to leave civilization and live by yourself or with a few close friends/family
in the middle of nowhere?
Have you worked as
part of a team? What did you find difficult? What did you find rewarding?
- our World:
is wrong with the world?
can I help the world as fast as possible?
do you want to ask Melinda Gates?
we need a new kind of leader in the world today?
Are you doing your
part to help our environment?
What is wrong with society?
What would you do to
help end poverty? What can you do... or rather, what are you willing to
How can I improve the world
we live in, or simply the world around me?
Should I really give
up my German Shepherd?
What happened when
you tried a Ouija Board?
to get to the original place where questions & answers were published.
The way you are asking tells that you are looking for truth 'somewhere'
and you want to know 'where' this might be. It also tells that you have
a concept of what truth is.
Now, let's see who
is asking: Obviously a human being who is in a certain state of personal
evolution. This means that the perception and possibility of understanding
is limited. Why limited? Because humans are conceptual beings and they
are identified with their concepts, these they see as 'truth', mainly because
this forms their personality and out of this they are getting their feeling
of existence. The result is that they are defending their established truth
and are not open for something different, unless this feels better, maybe
because it fits better to the other established concepts. So in this state
'truth' is totally subjective and can be changed in any moment if the old
and worn out truth has collapsed for some reason. The personality 'owns'
truth and is trying to live this conglomerate out of self-image, beliefs,
wishes, dreams, needs and all those concepts formed and build up during
lifetime. This collection of 'truth' gives security and more or less sense
to the personality, but is constantly challenged being confronted by daily
life happenings. The individual is trying to live ones 'truth', but the
daily reality makes this difficult if not in certain situations impossible.
That creates disappointment, frustration and a lot of stress. Why? Because
the discrepancy between ones imaginary dream world created by ones gathered
truth and daily reality doesn't want to be seen by the individuals. They
don't want to accept this fact; they don't even want to look at it. So
they will repeat again and again similar situations, where they fall on
their nose or on their bottom, until they look at themselves, realizing
that there is a truth that is different than theirs and then maybe realizing
their limitation and then maybe start to ask questions, critical questions.
Not to confirm their established truth, but finding out about a truth that
might be 'higher'. That will cause that they go beyond their personality.
Then connecting with a truth that is not limited to personality and subjective
This is possible although
very few humans are ready for it, mostly staying in their zombie state,
caught by the truth they are holding tied.
Is there a way out
of it, with the possibility to find real truth? Yes, there is. It is a
long way, it is the growing process that includes us all... The key is
'self knowledge' starting to observe, learning about human nature and being
aware how this works within one self. Observing ones reactions, becoming
aware what triggers these...
To create a basic
condition to make it possible that one can get out of ones personal cage,
I can strongly suggest to meditate regularly or do a simple exercise that
I call 'StressReleaseExercise'. All the information how to do it and to
start right away, you can find at: http://falconblanco.com/release/
This exercise is simple
and very effective; although it is better not to expect spectacular results.
If there is showing up a difficulty, caused by your individual condition,
then you can ask me for help, that will be freely given...
"Where is truth?"
is difficult to answer. It is similar as if you would ask: "Where is life?"
Of course it is everywhere and we can see it and relate to it when it has
form like the truth when it's expressed in words, but being interpreted
by the individual's mind it becomes a concept and then this is the worst,
it will hinder the direct perception.
it be possible to be a realist?
it is possible to be realistic. Experiences are one of the influences that
form the personality and so is subjective. The majority of humans in the
momentary state of evolution are not capable to relate in an objective
way to reality because they are identified with their personality and this
is a conglomerate out of beliefs, concepts, dreams, memories, experiences
and a self-image, well established and built up during ones life time.
Out of this people are getting their feeling of existence and it is limited
to this. Out of this they are reacting to outside influences and there
fore it is not possible that they are objective or realistic.
But when one has cleared
up ones personal background, what is a life long growing process, then
the perception of the world is not filtered anymore through ones personality
and limitations to relate to the world. Then ones perspective becomes objective
and so realistic. This is no ideal but a state of being and the future
state of humans, although at the moment there is not much of it visible...
there facts, or only interpretation?
depends from where you ask. Leaving your personality behind and asking
from an (theoretical) outside stand point, then there are facts and these
are what they are and this doesn't depend on any observer.
Or you ask as a person
observing something, then the observed will look as a fact for you, but
indeed this is only your interpretation, as you see it in a specific way
depending on your personal structure, what means determined from your unconscious
background and from your gathered knowledge, also influenced by your physical
and emotional condition. And because of this for another person the same
thing might look different and will be interpreted differently and so the
'fact' will have a different description.
will answer beyond that what people call 'insane' and of course you are
not 'insane' otherwise you wouldn't question yourself and ask here. In
contrary, for me it es clear that you are healthier than the majority of
humans on this planet.
Isn't it obvious that
every thing that is in contact with humans is absolutely not healthy at
all? Humanity is sick and insane as a whole and not many individuals are
questioning their condition. But this is the first step to enter into a
*healing process* and for this one doesn't need any professional helper,
as these, - as part of the system, are more insane than those they are
pretending to heal, by just eliminating their symptoms.
You are confused and
so out of balance. There is nothing 'wrong' with you and it is OK that
you are critical with yourself and that you observe yourself, then trying
to find out what goes on. That gives you the opportunity to question yourself
and do something consciously about it in a creative way. Instead of adapting
yourself to the zombie like conditions of the majority.
Understand, that you
are in a learning and growing process. This is at the same time a healing
process! This only can happen in your daily life situations with all happenings
and encounters. That is what life is about! See whatever shows up as a
challenge that asks you to relate and respond the best you are capable.
If people would adapt
this attitude, then they could heal themselves and with this whole humanity
could go into a transformation. But people are stuck in their growing and
their learning is limited to the survival need of their personalities.
This condition indeed is 'insane' and causes all misery and disastrous
Don't compare yourself
with others, trust yourself and your inbuilt *growing force*.
Ask questions! Without
questions, there is no answer! But ask real questions and not just those,
even though these sound so intelligent, who are looking for confirmation
for their established 'insane' condition!
do you say that those helpers are more insane than their patients?
they are totally stuck in their well established personality, having the
good intention to help people who are out of balance. Not knowing, that
this imbalance comes from the urge to *heal* oneself, getting out of the
stuck personality. These 'professionals' don't support the *growing force*
within each of us! They suppress this with their treatments and medication!
These people are slaves of the pharmateutical industry that represent the
materialistic social system...
is a transformational change?
In answering this myself I would answer: A change that makes one start
a completely different lifestyle. One where the person is so certain that
what he/she is doing on the deepest level is right and for good that there
is no room for fear, or wrong actions and decisions. All actions are completely
in tune with the rest of the universe.
This is my understanding,
I am interested in hearing yours.
Your explication is describing a possible result of a transformational
change but not what it is by itself. Indeed, a ‘transformational change’
will have significant results, which will turn out and show in one’s lifestyle,
behavior, etc. There might be no fear anymore, as fear is a reaction coming
out from one’s unconscious background and this might be cleared up and
also is the result of a transformational change.
Now how does this
happen? If ice melts and becomes water, then this is a transformational
change. If waste goes into the compost and what comes out is good earth,
or if a seed grows and becomes a plant, or a caterpillar becomes a butterfly,
then this we might understand as a transformational change. The problems
with humans is that they can’t really ‘understand’ what ‘transformational
change’ in a human is, unless they have passed this change themselves,
- as it includes one’s whole being... ‘Understanding’ as long as it happens
in the mind, just can be a concept and then this even might hinder if not
inhibit such a change, because the individual does not want such a change
and will do everything to avoid it. Concepts do a good job in this and
there is no end in this kind of understanding. So whatever I might explain
it will be added to one’s already stored concepts and this will not help
to further any ‘transformational change’. So that means that I have to
refuse to talk about it as whatever I might express it will be used to
add to your concepts.
So the only thing
I can do is to point out why it is so difficult that there happens a ‘transformational
change’. This should be a new subject, but at least I will start here:
It has to do with what might be called ‘Personality’, that what we believe
we are. This is not specifically ‘human’ because also animals have it,
but humans are totally identified with it and that’s what makes it so extremely
difficult to go beyond it. The system of ‘personality’, like all systems,
wants to keep itself together, for sure not wanting to lose itself, instead
of this the personality is trying to gain more and more, whatever this
might be: Property on all levels, security on all levels, power on all
levels, etc. If there is property, then there is power. Property not only
on the material level, although the tendency in our society puts the most
importance on this, but after this comes the intellectual property. If
one is rich, then one has the possibility to manipulate others and they
will serve to get even richer. The same with intellectual properties: one
can manipulate others and make them to followers or make that they do what
one wants. There is no end and one can never get enough.
Do you think those
people want a ‘transformational change’? So then who might want it? Probably
nobody. Those who are professionals for ‘transformational change’ are using
their knowledge to manipulate the individuals and the masses for their
own purpose. For example: The professionals in spiritual matters like the
churches and religious organizations. What are they doing? They offer concepts
and rituals. This is enough to keep people as followers and keep them quiet.
(Churches are still the richest companies in the world). Next: Professionals
for psychological changes: They have their techniques to treat people,
charge a lot of money and if they can’t help, then they describe medication:
Prozac, etc. Do you think they are interested in a ‘transformational change’?
Hahaha. Politicians: For sure they are not interested in any ‘transformational
change’; this is so obvious that I don’t need to say more about it. Medical
doctors: There might be a few interested, but what happens is that they
are mainly interested in treating symptoms by describing medication. Are
there individuals among those professionals who might be interested in
a ‘transformational change’ for themselves? Probably not, because they
use their professional knowledge as part of their personality to be confirmed
in their existence and if they can combine for example the knowledge from
psychology with spiritual concepts then they are absolutely unbeatable
and any ‘transformational change’ is kept out. Why? Because whatever might
happen and whatever challenge shows up, it will be successfully rejected
and put in its place where it belongs. One’s superiority will stay untouched.
Change might happen always, because adaptation is necessary and wanted
for one’s personality, but for sure no ‘transformational change’.
I know that ‘I’ don’t want to give up and ‘I’ don’t want to know about
the possibility that ‘I am’ still hanging on with an intellectual concept
or other kind of trick - fooling myself. So then my other question is what
is the yardstick that we can use to measure ourselves - in an independent
way without needing an authority to tell us - if there might be something
currently needing transformation?
Dropping one concept in exchange for another one is not a ‘transformational
change’. But if you become aware that you are identified with your concepts
and getting your feeling of existence out of it, then this might be the
Of course we are fooling
ourselves and we are clinging using all kind of tricks. All and every thing
turns around the ‘I’. If you can measure yourself? A good question. You
can’t, there isn''t such a 'stick'. Do what feels right at the moment,
knowing that this is not a measure, but the only way to do it, because
your feeling of what is right is still too much influenced by yourself:
your needs, your wishes, your dreams, your self image, your concepts, your
unconscious background. But if you sensitively are aware then you will
observe yourself and discover the tricks you are using, again being aware
that with this you are going into another game, etc. Your own reactions
towards what shows up in daily life from your surrounding and from people
are the best measure, if you are aware of this and observe and reflect
about it, that’s all.
So better relax and
trust that finally it will come to an end, what means you will not react
anymore because your background has been cleared up, more you can’t do.
And then a ‘transformational change’ might happen.
seems to me that it is a good thing for any individual to have some kind
of change, especially to make it more in touch with its spiritual side.
“Some kind of change?” Is there a real change? Or is there just a change
in concepts? Does it make any difference if somebody is killed because
of materialistic reasons or killed by religious reasons? For the killed
person for sure it will not make any difference, although the religious
motivation might give more strength to the killer...
What is the ‘spiritual
side’ of a person? This seems to be part of an image and so has little
or nothing to do with ‘spirituality’. An example: I am observing a person
who is in a strong ‘spiritual transformational process’. She is pretending,
although she believes totally it is true... It is not real, but this person
is totally involved in it and obviously believes that she is nearly enlightened.
But her daily life behavior showing up in her reactions are still totally
unconscious and to such an extreme, that no communication is possible.
Doing this old game of provoking reactions in another person and then using
the situation to react even stronger and of course finding a reason for
this and giving the fault to the other. Trying to draw the other into arguing:
to win the game. If this doesn’t work, because one doesn’t join this game,
then getting into a desperate situation with the need to pull the emergency
brake. You see, it is much more complicated and the ‘personality’ owns
a huge arsenal of tricky ways to defend itself that the ongoing game can
continue and the personality can survive. There seems to be no limitation,
but infact there is: There happens an inner blockage where no trick will
help to find one’s ‘self confirmation’.
This is called ‘guardian
of the threshold’ and keeps the door close for everybody who is not ready.
There is no trick possible and always turns the pretending person back
to oneself. So the last trick might be to end in total ‘craziness’ to save
oneself. Pretty absurd and sad, but it works...
But don't let us be
confused by extremes. Transformational change is possible. Let's water
the plants, clean the dishes and don't let us worry too much about transformation.
be or not to be? That is the question! (Shakespeare: Hamlet)
ever is asking this question, obviously is disturbed in ones feeling of
existence. Out of ones doubts there might come the need to find out what
it is that makes oneself feel 'being alive' and so: *being*... This 'questioning
oneself' will probably not happen when one is still fighting and struggling
to reach ones goals and dreams, - trying being involved in ones personal
ups and downs, to fulfill with all ones strength what seems to be the 'meaning
After a life long
suffering, not really capable to reach what one dreams as the real state
of 'being', one might come to the insight, that being identified with a
mindset that includes all those ideas that have developed during thousands
of years, - actually since existence of humankind, - and that all this
is limited to the primitive mind capacity of our species, even though we
believe of ourselves, that we are the most developed beings of the whole
world, - so this mindset might turn out to be a total 'flop'.
What was seen as never
doubted 'reality' until now, we might recognize as just the interpretation
from ones primitive state of 'being'! So then of course this was mostly
a misinterpretation! Not to mention the manipulation that was done from
the beginning of humankind from all those clever individuals who used others
for their own benefit...
Indeed nothing has
changed! So coming to the point, that one might realize, that we are living
in a self created fake reality, then this will, - as a conclusion, - bring
one to the question: "To be or not to be?"
So then: What is it
that 'I am'? I am what I believe is my 'personality'? Now seeing, that
this is a composition built out of a mindset that is the result of our
established 'fake reality'. Then of course ones whole feeling of existence
might collapse, leaving one with the question: "To be or not to be?"
Then one might come
to a state of being, where one is left reduced to just that: 'Being' and
one might experience a state of 'existence' that goes beyond any kind of
dependency or identification.
So, this is my answer.
Why? Because this
is my self expression coming out of my state of 'being' at this very moment.
It still is limited, as I'm human - but I am able to reach out to connect
with you! Because apart of the fact that we are all enclosed in the cage
of the common mindset, - we are all connected in our 'pure being' and so
each of us will connect with it when we finally free ourselves from our
so used strait jackets and then stepping out of our fake reality into the
space of our *true being*...
do we live in a world with secrets?
We live in a world with secrets, because we live in a world with a majority
of innocent, ignorant, silly, blind, dumb, dull, sick, screwed up, manipulated,
trapped and unaware humans. Who believe of themselves, that they are the
'crown of creation', but in reality they live in a self created fake dream
world. That makes, that they are so blown up turning around themselves,
that even a slight pinch at their 'ego balloon' might make them collapse.
That's why people must try to keep all what holds them in their ridicules
condition as a 'secret'. So people who are somehow conscious about these
facts and see the limitation in this and also the destructive results of
people's infantile 'secrete games', feel urged to change this so much suffering
causing condition and so they try to reveal those 'secrets'. These idealistic
helper engage themselves very much, but their effort doesn't really work,
because the survival need, that is part of the human nature, is so strong,
that it has build up an effective defense strategy, by rejecting every
thing that does not confirm ones established position. This might be seen
as something negative from the 'helper position', but having a different
standpoint, then this condition can be understood as a protection of those
'underdeveloped' individuals and gives them a certain security, even though
this is an illusion and false, but within this cocoon of personal limitation,
people can grow the strength, to break their personal straitjacket in their
Who wants to change
people, having a good and idealistic intention, but doesn't know enough
about oneself and others, mostly is using ones activities, not being aware
of this personal background fact, - to find confirmation for ones own concepts
and views and this will not be effective to influence people or conditions,
so that they can grow more *freely*.
do I free myself?
want to answer this question without too much interpretation of the question.
As you put your question into the category "Philosophy", so this gives
the hint that you know about that humans are not free, but that there is
the possibility to free oneself, although you might not know how this can
To be able to free
oneself, one must first, as a basic step, know what makes oneself not being
free. This might be: Ones limited knowledge. The solution would be to gain
more knowledge. So that's what we are doing now. So let's say we have the
knowledge of what makes us limited in our freedom. Then we know, that humans
are, in their momentary state of evolution, 'conceptual beings', that means
that we find sense and meaning by giving every thing and all a name and
then we explain what it is, creating a concept that we can establish into
our worldview and our self image. As our knowledge is limited because we
can't know all and in all its various aspects and how it is connected with
other conditions and facts, so our knowledge always will be limited, but
a concept about something doesn't include all, it serves by giving a certain
image, even if this is diffuse. So far so good. But what does it mean in
respect to our lack of freedom? Our concepts and our self-image let's us
relating to every thing that comes to us in daily life in the same limited
way as our established concepts are limited. We relate limited, then we
respond with the same limitation and we are not free to do so in a different
way: We are not free! So what can we do to free ourselves? It is not possible
to free ourselves from our self-image and from our concepts, because these
are an important part of our personality and we will defend these with
all means. But we can make one step by avoiding our strong reactions happening
because of our limitations. When we encounter a situation in daily life,
then we are reacting. That is the moment, when we can do a step to free
ourselves by observing our reaction and being aware of it, because mostly
we are not conscious about our reactions. That's the first step. Then when
the same situation repeats, then we will become more and more aware and
then it will happen, that we will not burst out with our reaction, but
we still react with thoughts or emotions, but now keeping them for ourselves.
Then later we will be able to observe and be aware from where the real
impulse comes that has triggered our reaction and we will see that the
real reason is not coming from outside, but from inside of ourselves. Then
we can do the next step and making a decision, that means eventually dropping
the part of our self-image that has caused our reaction. If we are able
to let go of it, then we have freed ourselves from it.
This might give you
an idea how you can free yourself, although it is a quite large field to
work on and not done quick and in an easy way. That's the reason why not
many people are ready for it and even though here and there a question
like yours appears, that doesn't mean that something serious will start
about it. It is good that you ask, so better continue asking. Without question
there is no answer, let's go on!
the key to free yourself!
the concept of personality?
is a fiction built up as a 'fake entity' by human beings because they identify
themselves with their senses and their emotions and their mind. Out of
this identification and the experience of daily encounter with reality
a 'personality' gets their feeling of existence. It is totally subjective
because it is based on concepts and an artificial self image that let the
individual react caused by ones limited and stored concepts to what ever
shows up. These reactions and what has caused them is mostly not conscious
and the individual is living them as part of their existence, turning around
oneself and finding the reason for being hurt or feeling happy at the outside,
but not being capable to see that all reactions are caused by ones own
concepts and programmed self image.
The personality is
not capable to go beyond ones limited built up structure, because receiving
a kind of security and meaning out of it, the self defense is strong and
will not allow influences that might reduce or change ones self-image.
Personality is a self
containing system that in a growing process is loosening up its structure
and in an analytical process of self knowledge the individual is growing
beyond 'Personality' and might finally find its *source*. Trying to get
out of ones personality *right now* is like a person standing with both
feet in a bucket and wanting to lift oneself up with the handle.
do we know what reality is if the way we look at the world is limited by
our brain and our senses?
we 'know' of reality, is the erroneous result of our interpretation coming
from our limited capacity of our consciousness. This has created a mindset
during history of mankind, that is giving the feeling of existence to individuals
by being identified with their mind and emotions and the gathered property.
As the 'feeling of existence' is the dominating force, so there is no logic
involved or only that much, that can support oneself. That makes it so
difficult for evolution, because it would be necessary to go beyond the
established mindset, - entering into unknown fields...
That's not what people
want, as they are getting their satisfaction out of what they 'know', even
though this is fake and as a result they are living in a fake reality that
they have created themselves!
That's is exactly
the situation of humankind at this moment of evolution: We are stuck in
this limited level and even though we are suffering, we continue to turn
around ourselves! But there are questions like yours, showing that there
is a need and urge to go beyond, - freeing oneself from the straitjacket
of the established common mindset!
Great! Continue asking!
a 'Positive Attitude' the basic condition for a better Tomorrow?
Quote: "To make
positive change for tomorrow, we must make positive change for today. To
make positive change for today, we must make a positive change to our attitude."
This quote sounds clever and wise, - but that's all.
What is wanted is
that conditions are differently than they are. Changing these one might
see these conditions then as 'positive' because they fit to ones image
or desire how one want things to be. How does one know that then these
new conditions are better and really 'positive'?
An example: You are
walking half an hour to your work and then half an hour back. You want
to change this and your desire is to have a car like every body else and
you believe that this will be a positive change. So you are working hard
to get this money and then one day you buy a car. You are proud and you
feel good. You reach your working place in five minutes! - If the traffic
allows it. But then you are looking for a parking space. The streets are
full with cars, there is no space left open! Every day you are getting
into stress and you have to pay to parking that is far away from your work.
You do this for some time, but then you might find out, that having a car
is not 'positive', paying for gasoline, insurance, tax, repairing and parking,
you feel not comfortable any more because you are missing your morning
and evening walk. Your belly is growing and your health is declining...
So far the example
about 'positive changes'.
One should ask oneself
from where those dreams, wishes, desires, goals, values and images are
coming from. All those ideas planted into ones mindset. And as we are identified
with our mindset and self image, then we want all this to be completed
and that's then seen as 'positive', but what the truth is nobody wants
to know and only after decades of suffering, there might show up some critical
questions about oneself and the influences one is receiving. First of course,
- like always, - the fault is given to the outside for what ever conditions
one has developed and then one uses all those means that are offered from
the same source, to change the disturbing conditions. Always wanting to
'change', - with manipulation on all levels. That seems to be 'normal',
because that's what every body is doing.
Unless one is practicing
or the the 'StressReleaseExercise'
and with this finding a new space within oneself. A space that gives a
new feeling of existence and from there one has a new feeling of what is
really 'positive' and not just accepting what is part of the common mindset
of this society. One might even find out, that we are all living in a fake
But finally one finds
an authentic feeling of oneself and a clear view. One will gain a new attitude,
but not from 'making' ones view 'positive'. One has done a step out of
the common limited mindset and one will not buy any more those clever and
do you become fully aware of yourself and your surroundings?
Our awareness is the most essential part of our existence and we as individuals
are all in a growing process, even though it doesn't look like, because
we might feel totally stuck. When you ask such a question, then it shows
that there is an urge to become aware and now you are looking for the best
way. The best way is given to us all by being *alive* and being able to
relate and respond to what shows up in our daily life, - with all its happenings,
encounters and conditions. When we *relate*, then we are using all what
we have, all our senses and the awareness we are capable of. We will not
be able to respond to all what we encounter or only in a reduced way, because
we are relating out of our established mindset and that is limited due
to the programs we have received coming from our society. This has the
function of a cocoon that protects us within our growing process, but at
the same time it is felt as a straitjacket. There are people that feel
comfortable in their state of being and others struggling to get out when
one can have the trust, that what shows up in ones daily life is exactly
the right thing to grow, seeing it as a challenge and a lesson. This positive
attitude will us let be open and we can *relate and respond* the best way,
not having the strong need to defend ourselves.
When we struggle through
life, then the usual way is, to give the fault to every thing that shows
up and is not as we would like it to be, - to the outside and others. That
is the best defense, not looking at oneself and so keeping ones self image
untouched. But with ones growing awareness, one realizes, that it is not
the outside that makes one react. It is ones established mindset.
So then comes the
moment, when one starts to look out of ones 'cocoon', when one becomes
aware of ones reactions, - not just being identified with what we might
see as 'self expression', but being able to observe it. The next step is,
that one realizes, what has caused ones reaction. It was triggered by something
from the outside, but was caused by ones own background condition. Then
one might be able to let go of this worn out program... Clearing up oneself
and so becoming more *aware*.
Then we might also
become aware, why we are attracted by certain happenings, conditions, places
and people and we might understand, that we are not just looking for entertainment
and excitement, but for the challenges that give us the opportunity to
grow and to become more aware.
From my own struggling
and growing over several decades I can tell you something that really helps
in this process. It is easy to do and gives the base to make the best out
of ones life. If more people would practice this exercise, then very soon
the whole world situation would change in a creative and positive way.
Unfortunately this is not yet part of our common mindset and rejected by
people stuck in their 'cocoon'. But those who are struggling to get out
of their straitjacket, will find a great help with it. I am offering advice
how to do it at the link below. It is totally for free and not connected
with any kind of money or other interests.
concept of God makes it difficult to experience God?
I was asking myself this question and tried to find out about it. I went
to various discussion boards and also talked with a lot of people, but
as more I think about it and talk as more confused I'm becoming. I was
told that I need to believe then my confusion will disappear. But somehow
I refuse to believe in something I don't understand. Is there a solution?
Can you tell me what is 'God'?
your search to find out about it, you probably got to know the various
concepts about what 'God' is. Why these were not satisfying you?
this is another part of my problem. I see that most people are not asking
further on, they just believe what they are told in their Sunday school,
then when they grow up, they join the common goals: Going for a career,
making money, having a family, children, etc. and they stay with their
belief they were told as children. But then after having worked hard for
thirty or fifty years, they are becoming tired and sick and then they are
mostly occupied with their suffering. They have problems with their children,
with their partner, etc. and this goes on and on, until they break down.
If this hasn't happen
before because they have ruined their health with drugs, alcohol or just
their eating habits. So for what was serving their belief they were thought
in their childhood? Maybe it gave them some kind of 'moral' direction,
but the worn out picture of 'Hell and Heaven' doesn't seem to work anymore,
as the rising amount of crimes, desperation and suicides show clearly.
Isn't there a huge discrepancy between what the regions tell us and the
daily life around us? Isn't this world in the first place materialistic
and nearly everything people are doing and especially the people who have
the power and the possibility to do it differently, are striving for materialistic
goals? And isn't it obvious that with this humanity is destroying this
planet and all life on it? And all this with our beautiful beliefs and
in 'God'? So how can I honestly believe in this? There is something profoundly
wrong about it!
When I look around
me, then I observe that the people who want to sell me their products,
are using the same methods: They are telling me what will make me happy,
promising me satisfaction and a kind of heaven on earth. They want that
I believe in their honesty and they all just want the best for me.
Very similar to what
all politicians are pretending. But can I trust in all these promises?
When I see the corruption everywhere then I doubt this and it becomes clear
that probably they all just want my money. And then seeing their religious
phrases used, I just feel disgusted and realize that they are trying to
manipulate me. Looking at it I am even more confused and only want to go
away from so much falseness all around. Is there a way to get out of it?
You see it pretty clear and I don't have to add much to it. My simple advice
for the moment would be: Twice a day meditation for at least 20 minutes.
Try to stay away for some time from too much influence from outside: Switch
off the TV, avoid any junk food, (eat mainly fresh vegetable and fruits),
avoid all drugs, no tobacco, no alcohol. Go for long walks in nature. Relate
to animals and plants. Talk and try to connect with simple people. Listen
to good music. Do something with your hands, like repairing something,
etc. And for the moment take it easy. Then you will see that your confusion
will clear up and
then you will be more capable to look beyond your position. Then come back
and we will talk about what 'God' is...
definition of god is what man could not explain?
explanation or definition even though coming out of an direct spiritual
experience and not out of an already formed and established concept, will
be made to a new concept or integrated into one that already exist. Concepts
are part of the personality and the individual is identified with them,
getting ones feeling of existence out of it. That was the same in ancient
times and is still today. Founders of religions were obviously still too
simple minded in ancient times and had not enough self knowledge and knowledge
about human nature, otherwise they would have known, that humans always
use every thing for their personality games, to protect themselves from
the unknown finding security... using beautiful ideas, for example of 'Love
and Harmony', integrating these into their self image, but continue living
their primitive survival instincts, causing destruction and suffering.
Not wanting and not being able to go beyond...
Probably the best
would have been for founders of religions, just to live a normal daily
life, not even teaching, but giving an example with their attitudes and
their behavior, without talking about any sublime experience, but telling
people if they ask, because they are touched by their presence, to sit
down to do a simple exercise: Being aware of their pure existence and breathing...
The world now would look quite different and there would be real growing
and realization of love and harmony...
inhibit to relate to reality? A concept about God makes the realization
difficult if not impossible?
There is obviously a discrepancy between concepts and reality. This causes
disappointment, frustration and a lot of stress in most humans. The high
number of diseases, suicides and depressions are the result. Spiritual
concepts about Love, harmony and Oneness and religious belief systems providing
images about God and how to live to go to heaven, for sure give a certain
frame in which people can live, but their own reality is different and
giving effort in trying to live adapted concepts doesn't really work to
make people fulfilled and happy. What's going wrong? Is it that humans
need to wake up and realize that they are caught in a game with themselves?
I don't understand your point here, do you mean that religion conflicts
with how people live their life? That their religion does not fully benefit
their life by giving them a belief from that they can gain a more positive
attitude and world view?
No, that's not exactly what I mean. I said that there is a discrepancy
between concepts and reality. A religion is a concept or you might call
it a dogma, right? So this dogma includes rules and advises how one should
behave and live. It gives a picture of reality and people make it as part
of their self-image. Right? So far so good, now people know what to do
and they feel some how good. They have a frame in that they can move and
it gives them a certain security. But then there is the daily reality and
then there are appearing conflicts because it doesn't fit to ones concepts
and so the result is disappointment.
If that's your point, I totally disagree. Indeed there are religious demands,
but most followers will take it as part of their commitment that they can
never meet up to the standards of their religious rules. Religion is part
of their life and gives them security and a background so that they can
deal with reality.
It is not about standards. It is about the fact that established concepts
inhibit to relate directly to reality. There is always the filter from
the concepts how things should be and then the person is reacting and accepting
or rejecting what shows up, but not being aware of it, only finding always
a good reason for ones reactions, mostly giving the fault to the outside
conditions or the behavior and action of people.
For example: A person feels totally lost and doesn't find sense in ones
life. When this person finds sense in a religion, then this gives them
peace and so this person can be happy. Christianity teaches self acceptance,
love and hope. Becoming familiar with their belief people can then accept
and follow the religious rules, for example giving up sins and growing
stronger in their faith. They might also give up self-destructive habits
and chose new ones.
Sounds good as a concept, but what about reality? Has there changed anything
in tow thousand years? Is there more peace than before? No, there isn't.
Are people more happy? For sure not. Look at the high number of diseases,
the rising number of suicides, the extreme amount of divorces, abuse and
crimes... "Becoming familiar with their belief people can then accept and
follow the religious rules" Really you believe in this? Then look around.
"Giving up sins?" How can people give up sins by following a 'religious
demand'? Just go around the corner and observe what is happening... Self-destruction
where ever you look: In life style, consumer habits, entertainment, relation
ships and most of what people do.
Yes, many might not be aware of their self-destructive life style when
in their present body - but, they can still gain a kind of fulfillment
because they were doing their best in following the rules of their religious
Yes, people might gain a sense of fulfillment when they join a belief system
and doing some effort to suppress needs that are showing up and that are
not allowed by the rules of their dogma, but what is it they really have
gained? Have they fulfilled their longing? Have they grown? Are they content
and happy with their life? Do they relate to reality, feeling responsible
to what happens and respond out of their best capability?
Are concepts and reality two different things? How can you prove reality
to a person? Reality are concepts of our collective mind. What people perceive
depends on their personal background and will not be exactly the same than
how another perceives something.
I don't say that concepts and reality are two different things. I say that
having concepts doesn't allow to relate to reality in an objective way
because one receives and is interpreting every thing through ones established
concepts that are working in ones unconscious background. Didn't Jesus
say: "Become like children to gain the kingdom of heaven?" That is because
children don't have yet concepts, they live more in the presence and relate
in a more direct way. What would Jesus have said to your comments here?
Maybe: "Oh you clever brave women, you are so good in your belief and what
you have learned how to be a good christian, but forget about all this
and become like a child or even better like a new born child and then breath
the air and live without any contamination of sophisticated thoughts and
You seem to believe that religions are an obstacle to gain happiness, that's
simply not true. People will always be in a game within themselves and
they don't have an inbuilt reset button.
I don't see it like this, I observe it every day all around. People were
trying to live their concepts for a long time and they were fighting and
struggling, getting more and more frustrated and disappointed. Life becomes
very stressful. Why? Because they are fighting against 'wings of windmills',
as Cervantes in 'Don Quixote' has described it... Even having beautiful
concepts, being disappointed enough, then life doesn't make sense any more.
People can't find satisfaction and happiness. The discrepancy between the
concepts of the collective mind that are supposed to give value to life
and the reality of daily conditions and happenings are too obvious. Desperation
is taking over. When you say that there will be always an ongoing game
within ourselves then this is the most negative and destructive statement
that is possible. Indeed there exist a 'reset button' and that is to free
oneself from games, getting out of concepts and belief systems. Taking
self responsibility and relating and responding out of ones own awareness.
Going into a growing and healing process. That is the 'reset button'. Of
course this is not done instantly by pushing a button. This is hard work,
not because of the resistance and difficulties from the outside, but because
of ones own established structure and the old way to hold on it, not wanting
to let go what at least gave a kind of sense. No, one need to let go of
worn out ways of thinking, even with the danger to fall into a void, where
nothing gives sense... Then one might find something new. Something that
doesn't need to be put into words to become a new concept. It will be a
state of 'being' in which one will be able to appreciate the simple fact
to be alive and this does not depend on conditions or any belief... Live
your existence right here and now! Then you will be able to enjoy it and
out of this will grow real happiness! Without any conditions! - - -
there a way to heal my inguinal hernia without surgery?
healed my inguinal hernia without surgery! About three years ago when I
was healed from Fibromyalgia and felt recovered and full of energy I started
to work again and also lifted heavy things. For two years I had not worked
and my whole system had become week and also I had gained weight. So then
also my muscles and tissue had become week and as a result, when lifting
something heavy, I got an inguinal hernia. The medical doctor who made
the diagnosis told me that this must be operated immediately otherwise
I could die within 5 hours. I listened critically, because I was going
several years through the experience with the medical system and I didn't
believe in it anymore. So I said just NO. I really didn't know anything
about inguinal hernia and just felt that there must be a way to heal it
in a natural way. So I searched the Internet. Hundred thousand of Web sites
showed up and all about surgery. But I didn't give up, I searched for about
half a year and finally had a kind of treatment together, which I did every
day for some time. I felt better and something (intuition?) told me that
I was on the right track. Then I had an email exchange with somebody who
healed his inguinal hernia himself and without surgery. This gave me some
uplifting energy to continue because I felt pretty alone with my intention
as from all sides I was told to let do the surgery and that there would
not be another way to heal this condition. So I went on with my exercises...
It is now several months ago that I noticed that my hernia didn't pop out
when I was taking a shower or doing the sauna. Before I had to protect
the hernia with my hand when I had not the belt on, but now this wasn't
necessary anymore. After so long I couldn't believe that my hernia might
be healed, but when I didn't wear my belt and just was doing normal things,
walking, even lifting things, then there was no hernia anymore. There was
no pain and no other symptoms. This has been now for about half a year
and so I can conclude that I am healed. This is unbelievable and I can
see why it is so difficult that I could believe it myself, after all this
telling me that there wouldn't be any other way than surgery. This established
opinion is so strong, that there is absolutely no doubt about it. But that
it is false it is clear now for me, I am the proof! A few months ago I
had an accident and had to go to the hospital. There were two doctors and
they ask me about my history, what diseases I had before. When I told them
that I had Fibromyalgia and that I had healed myself from it, then they
said nothing. I ask them if they know about Fibromyalgia, then they only
said 'yes', nothing else. But they looked to each other and I could see
what they thought: "This guy is crazy!" But when I told them that I had
an inguinal hernia recently and that I have healed myself, then they didn't
say one word and probably thought that I am totally out of mind. So when
I post here, then it might be the same. But I don't want to convince anybody.
I have made a Web site about it and described everything I have done to
heal my hernia. I can tell you that it was not easy especially because
I was never sure that it would work, so for somebody else who now wants
to do the same it will be much easier knowing that indeed it is possible
to heal oneself without surgery. Just I need to tell you that it still
is not easy. It is a process, which includes the whole being with all levels.
It is in fact a transformational process. It is a real healing and not
just a repairing of your hernia. Go to my Web
site. If you have a question you can ask me, but I am not a health
professional and I can not give you an advice, I only told what I have
done and that doesn’t mean it will work for you as well. It is your responsibility
what you want to do with the given information. There are about 200 million
sufferers from inguinal hernia on this planet and many who can't effort
surgery just suffering without hope. So if some of them can at least start
to do something about it by themselves, then my experience was not only
good for myself.
Just that you know:
I am not offering any cure and I am not selling any thing.
a serious ill person refuses medical treatment, can this be seen as self
depends very much on all the other conditions of this person and not just
on the physical state. Answering this question now would mean only to give
an interpretation of a possible condition and situation.
It needs much more
details to conclude that refusing treatment means that this person wants
to give up and doesn't care if his/her life ends.
There is another possibility
why this person refuses treatment. I can tell my own story to show a possible
I was seriously ill
and went from one doctor to the other, from one healer to the other. All
gave me a different name and reason for my symptoms and different treatments,
mostly painkiller, which I refused to take. Then I investigated myself,
what was extremely difficult for me because of my bad physical condition,
but thanks to the Internet I found alternative treatments. I put together
all what I found and treated myself: After one year I was totally healed!
Even though the medical doctors said that there is no cure and I have to
live with this disease. You can imagine what my opinion was after this
experience... That I had refused medical treatment probably had saved my
Next part of the story:
As a follow up and because my body was weak because I haven't had body
exercise for more than a year, I got an inguinal hernia, when I lifted
something heavy, starting again to work because I felt strong and full
of energy. The medical doctor said that this must be operated immediately;
otherwise I could be dead within 5 hours, if... I refused this kind of
'treatment'. I was convinced that surgery has little to do with healing.
So again I investigated the Internet. This time it was easier for me because
I had my full energy, but it was not easier to find something that was
not surgery. Actually there was absolutely nothing, all about surgery.
But still I refused surgery and for sure not because I wanted to commit
suicide! I searched for about half a year until I found some hints and
I could start to treat myself. To shorten the story: After one year I was
totally healed! No pain, no symptoms anymore!
Next part of the story:
I broke my foot and my leg... In the hospital two medical doctors tried
to convince me that this must be operated. What means putting metal plates
and screws. I refused this and told them simply to put the bones in the
right position and put plaster. Probably they never had experienced such
an attitude from a patient. When they ask me about my health history and
I told them that I had healed myself recently from an inguinal hernia,
then they looked at each other and I could see that they thought: 'This
guy is crazy!' and they didn't ask anything more! They put the plaster
and let me go, telling me to come back in six weeks to take the plaster
off. To shorten the story: I took off the plaster myself after four weeks
and treated myself with footbaths and clay. After a few weeks more my foot
was healed. I don't want to think about that with the operation I would
go the rest of my life with metal plates and screws in my foot!
Does this makes it
clear that refusing treatment doesn't necessarily means that one wants
to commit suicide? Looking into the medical health system, one should be
very critical when one needs a treatment and at least should ask for another
opinion. But people in general are depending totally on the so well established
medical system and there is no question or doubt. There are people and
this might be the case of the person you are talking about, who has already
enough experience with the medical system or have seen how people were
suffering when treated, that they don’t want also to go into this and so
refusing any treatment, but possibly not having the energy to investigate
and treat themselves.
There might be other
reasons why this person refuses treatment, who knows?
If there is somebody
who is interested to know more about my story, can go to my Web site. I
have written in details a testimonial that might help others in a similar
Resume: It should
be clear, that healing doesn’t mean to treat symptoms. Healing includes
the whole system: Body, mind, emotions and more and refusing a treatment
that only is directed at the body, might be the first step to real healing…
It is worth to find out, but it seems to be needed that every body finds
out by oneself, as the medical system is not of help in this, sad but true.
I did not "refuse"
treatment out of a suicidal depression but out of the possibility to find
another form of "cure" and I keep a very strong and positive attitude towards
life. I must tell you that the 'suicidal depression is also present, even
though I have a strong positive attitude towards life. Just at this moment
I am going through a crisis and I am confused. Continuing with my 30 years
long intention might kill me within a few years or months, because I'm
getting really tired, but giving up is a form of committing suicide, but
continuing also... At the moment it seems that whatever I do, I'm running
against walls, no responses, ignorance or rejections coming from resistance
(I'm not referring to this question). I need to step back and wait, meanwhile
taking care of my health that is becoming delicate... Thanks for your reminder.
You wrote: "The Ayurveda
in you is pretty well balanced in that you don't let it get you down which
shows in your ability to heal where others have given up hope." I don't
think it is a question of 'having hope or not'. It is the dependency of
people, clinging on established authority, not taking self-responsibility.
People don't want to grow up, as it is much easier to be manipulated, then
to take the risk to go into something unknown and finding out oneself...
The dilemma is that then they stay in this infantile attitude and cut themselves
off the possibility to grow, the same as the established health system,
so they both help each other. The patients by being innocent followers
of the system and the system by holding patients in dependency, strengthening
the attitude of patients that they are victims of circumstances and that
they need help and must be fixed from specialists and medication…
What’s the difference
between “Medication” and “Meditation”? Only in the center: where a 'c'
is a 't'. So it seems very little difference, but in fact there are worlds
Sorry for this silly
question 'off topic', I wanted to prepare a bridge from the usual treatment
with medication to the more subtle way of healing with meditation. Now
I just read in one of the following answers that this field is covert in
a convincing way. Nothing left to say? One thing occupies me: With the
same rigidity people holding on their dependency and trusting completely
the established health system, with the same rigidity they close themselves
against something that is new and unknown, like *meditation*. To reject
meditation is easy because the word is connected with images of religion,
spirituality and mystic. Probably any exercise will be rejected because
it involves the initiative of the person and that's not wanted, as it is
so much easier to swallow some pills or let a treatment be done on oneself.
It makes me think that this has to do with 'growing up' and to do something
by oneself would mean to do a step out of ones children's shoes. And the
tragically is that people prefer to die if they are desperate and tired
from their suffering and have given up to expect to be healed by medical
doctors. It seems that there is something missing, what can this be? A
kind of bridge between medication and meditation?
Release and Meditation:
meditation induce greater self consciousness?
worry, continue to meditate. Twice a day for about twenty minutes is enough.
Do it in the morning and in the evening, every day!
That beside the benefits
you see a negative result coming from it, shows that you have certain expectations,
be aware of it and then drop this. Of course you have a strong personality
like every body and you are involved in a game with yourself, - like every
body. You can't yet be aware of it, but this will come in its time. It
has lessened as you say, just give yourself space...
You are practicing
your meditation for about two years so it would be good that you let check
your meditation from some body who knows how to do it. If you don't have
anybody, then I can do it. The easiest at the moment is that you watch
my video about meditation: "Just
do it!" at YouTube.
If you have any question
about it, you can use the feedback form at the end of this page.
You are probably doing
nothing 'wrong'. It is just a fact that 'growing' is causing disturbance
on various levels and it would be useful if you have enough information
about it. You need to know about 'human nature' and what can cause that
reactions are showing up, that are mostly defense reactions because the
personality doesn't want to change and is using all kind of tricks, so
it is good to know about it not to fall into the trap to be too much involved...
There are certain
steps to be taken depending where you are in your growing and learning
You are becoming aware
of yourself and at the same time you become aware of your background conditioning,
clearing this up and with this the identification with your reactions that
are caused from your unconscious background. This is a 'healing process'
and needs your engagement, what indeed for some time feels heavy and intense.
But as you are becoming sovereign and not dependent on conditions, so you
can manage this.
That you are able
to express yourself and ask questions is important and shows that you are
on the 'path' and I hope that could help you with it.
can I meditate more effectively?
can meditate more effectively, when you don't expect any benefit, even
though you have experienced good results from it before. The intention
of meditation is not to have those positive results that you are describing,
these are just side effects.
You might understand
meditation as an 'awareness training', what means that you are doing nothing
else in meditation than just being aware of yourself and whatever shows
up. But without giving special attention to it, only that much of being
aware of it. Don't be troubled by thoughts because you feel disturbed by
them, these thoughts are reactions, let them pass, don't give any importance
to them, then they will become less and disappear by themselves.
The more important
aspect of meditation is, that it helps you in your *growing* when relating
and responding to what shows up in your daily life, because it let you
be more aware about yourself and your surrounding and furthers your understanding,
because you are going beyond your old established thinking habits. So that
you can recognize, that you and the whole world is in a transformation,
even though it might not look like this, - when you observe how silly people
are and how much stuck in their fake reality, - they have created by themselves.
That most people live
and are identified with their limited mindset, ist just a step in evolution
of humanity and the many problems and all suffering is the inevitable consequence
Meditation would be
the resolution for all, but if people are not ready, then they are not
interested, but if you meditate, then you are in this transformation and
even so you are not talking about it, there is an influence effecting others...
So don't worry, just
practice your meditation, twice a day for twenty minutes, - every day!
- - -
If there shows up
a problem, you can ask me and it might help to further your meditation,
if you watch my video "Just
do it!" I have made about it.
conflict be managed? If so how?
To be able to manage a conflict, we need to know and understand what a
conflict is. A conflict appears when there are two or more conditions being
opposed and the situation needs a decision to choose one of these. It might
be that these different conditions are manifested in the outside and then
there is the condition of the person who needs to make the decision. The
discrepancy between the inside and outside condition creates the conflict.
If one is aware about ones own condition that means ones conditioning,
then this would be the best and basic step to manage ones conflict, but
as this conditioning mostly is unconscious, so this makes it difficult.
What causes the conflict is ones self-image and the established concepts,
from there are caused the conditioning and on this background decisions
are made. The conflict is that the outside conditions are too often not
in favor with ones self-image and concepts and this is felt as an obstacle
one needs to fight or one must try to avoid. If this is not possible, then
one might be forced to change ones self-image or ones concepts and this
will be a serious conflict, because once established, the individual is
not easily willing to change something about it.
The best way to manage
a conflict without doubt is to solve the conflict. How? By trying to check
the outside conditions in the most objective way possible and then to be
aware of ones own condition, checking if a change might be indicated.
Conflict can be seen
as positive, because it gives us the opportunity to grow... With a positive
attitude we can use our energy in a more efficient way to manage and solve
should I do?
24 years old and I don't know what to do with my life. I don't feel alive.
Life feels pointless with no meaning.
can look at any kind of condition in a positive way and with this creating
a base to go ahead with a more objective and clear view. You might think
that it is not normal not to know what you want, because some young people
seem to be very certain about it, even though they don't know where this
certainty comes from. Your insecurity gives you the advantage, that first
you can check out, what possibilities there are, then investigate carefully
what the facts are and not only being attracted by beautiful images that
are covering the 'dirty' reality one can find behind the scene. Most people
follow an image or you can call it a 'dream' and then they spend years
and a lot of energy trying to realize it. Often, not to say mostly, it
turns out that even they could reach their goal, their expectation is not
fulfilled. Maybe at the most outside level, by reaching a certain position
and finding a kind of satisfaction, but then what about their more essential
longing for 'acceptance, love and happiness'? There is just too much behind
the curtain, they couldn't imagine before...
If you can proof the
possibilities before hand, then this can avoid that you go into something
and then you are stablished in a frame, from that you can't escape any
more and so you will stay with it for all your life. That then you will
not be real happy is pretty clear.
Now you say that you
don't feel alive. The fact is, that you are *alive*. Maybe the only thing
you need to do, is to be *aware* of the fact that you are alive. Now this
feeling seems to be blocked because there is an expectation connected with
this feeling 'alive' that is the artificial product coming from this society.
If you can realize what this is, being aware of your conditioning, then
you will be able to 'feel alive' without being limited by a program or
a specific expectation. You can be glad that you have not yet established
the common mindset of this society with all those things, goals and beliefs
that gives 'meaning' to ones life. Really, you can be glad, because you
haven't entered yet into this trap and you have still the possibility of
don't know whether to stay in school or just stop and FOLLOW my dreams.
It's hard. I'M NOT HAPPY WITH MY LIFE. I am miserable. I cry a lot. I'm
emotional a lot. Everything makes me cry because I'm just so torn inside.
I don't have any friends. I have no social life. I work and go to school.
I don't get along with my family. I don't have a boyfriend. Sometimes I
feel worthless and not worthy of LOVE. I don't believe in love because
I don't know what love is and I don't think love is for me or think that
anyone would ever feel love for me because people have always stepped on
me and made me feel like SH*T most of my life.
that's a whole package in which you are caught. It is necessary to sort
out and clear up. If you don't feel good with yourself, then this will
cause a chain reaction and influence all other aspects of you and how you
react to whatever comes to you. Be clear about the fact that you are reacting
with emotions because you have certain expectations how thing 'should'
be. Can you see this?
You are emotionally
disappointed. This goes probably back to your early childhood and so you
might be programmed in a negative way and then you were confirmed by your
negative experiences, letting you be trapped in this condition. Then you
are exactly creating those conditions that then causes you those desperate
reactions. Not allowing and being open to let different condition happen.
Of course about this you are not conscious, but if you reflect about it,
then you might see the old pattern and then you can drop these, - they
might be worn out by now!
You are programmed
and so you depend on outside conditions and situations and of course on
people and this of course will give you disappointment, because people
can't fulfill your needs of acceptance and appreciation. People are looking
in the first place for confirmation for themselves and this happens in
a social setup. If you are not in an established position within this 'game',
then you will not be able to participate and so you will feel lost and
outside of it. - With the good chance to look through these games and then
you might never enter this 'trap'.
But what keeps me alive is dreaming. Dreaming that I one day I'll be able
to be a big hollywood star. That one day I will walk on a red carpet and
express my love for film to people. I LOVE FILM! I have the biggest movie
collection. I love acting. I'm kind of shy but acting allows me to be someone
else. I was thinking about moving to California a year from today. I keep
trying to figure out who I am and it always leads me back to ACTING. What
do I do?
Drop out of school
keep working and move to California or stay in school and further my education
maybe go to med. school in the future.
does not keep you alive, it just helps you to escape from your reactions
of feeling desperate because in your present situation you can't find enough
confirmation for your existence. So you are anticipating this confirmation
in dreaming of the 'red carpet'! Pretty clear, isn't it? OK, you love acting.
I can understand this, because I also love it, although I haven't had many
opportunities on a stage, but I can do this by expressing myself in a special
way in my daily life and it works. I can entertain people and lift up their
mood, make them get out of their depressed attitude at least for a moment
so that they can laugh, also about themselves. You should try this, it
is really amazing and also what it makes to you, probably that is the feedback
of good energy coming from people! This might be already enough to give
you a good feeling, when expressing yourself beyond your not so favorable
self image. You don't need to enter into the false glamour world of entertainment
I know going to school seems more realistic.. but what about my dreams?
to school is what you are doing now and in so far it is more realistic,
although there are more options that you could explore if you would give
yourself this choice. Your dreams are dreams and better investigate about
the possibilities you can find, before moving to Los Angeles. The reality
there looks much different and if you could wake up from your dream, before
you go into the tough challenge realizing the reality, then this would
save you from extremely disappointment! Oh, oh, that would be a chock you
are probably not able to take. (I know a bit about it, because I have been
there and in contact with the film industry, with a project of a film and
I got a taste of the tough reality...)
in school to become an RN and I need 2 more years to finish. I was thinking
about going to Med. school to become a Child Psychiatrist (not right after
graduating and becoming an RN) but later on in the future. I wanted to
do nursing first just in case I didn't really want to keep going with my
studies in the future. I understand that things change in life, I might
want a family or fulfill other things in life but caring for people is
what I've always wanted to do whether it be nursing or medicine.
don't know what a 'RN' is, but if you want to go to a med. school, then
you should better investigate carefully about the medical health system
how it is established as part of this society. You will find out that it
has little or nothing to do with helping or healing people. It is all based
on a materialistic world view and serves in the first place a power system
that is not even interested in healing, but to keep people in dependency...
(Not the med. doctors, they are just slaves of the system!)
work at a hospital as a CNA and I love caring for people but I hate my
position. I hate that I can't diagnose my patients or prescribe medication
for their pain. I hate that all I do is wash people, feed people and take
vital signs. Don't get me wrong is not that I don't want to do these things
I just want to do so much more for them. I know I have to go to med. school
for this but I can't help how I feel.
to care for people is a healthy attitude and does not depend on a certain
situation or position, you can do this wherever you are, because it has
to do with giving your energy and a hospital probably is not the best place
as you are squeezed into the rigid and false system, limited to treat symptoms.
Now you are in direct contact with people and you can give your attention
and take care of them, so you can experience 'love'. That's what people
need the most, - you know this. You know this from your own need. So just
give it and then you will experience it and 'know' what it means, even
though you know that these people are lost in the corrupt medical system
and that there is no real healing for them. Caring for them is all you
can give and that is more what they get with their medical treatment, so
you are in the position to give *real healing*. It is your *clear energy*,
that does not depend on any condition.
Experience this energy
and *beam* it, this will give you more satisfaction and fulfillment than
you can imagine now. This will be a practical mean to break out of your
vicious circle of frustration.
feel like I'm not respected or acknowledged in my career. I'm doing so
much and it gets overlooked. Doctors act like I'm invisible and the nurses
step on me and kick me around so bad.
are in a tough 'training' that in the first place has to do with your personal
*growing process* and not with your 'career'. You need to develop self
confidence and a position from where you can observe your surrounding in
a more objective way.
That will be possible
when you clear up your unconscious program in your background. Your daily
reality gives you the opportunity for this and your reactions are showing
you, where they are coming from, so that you can free yourself. This is
your *real work*, more important than the fulfillment of your expectations
coming out of the common mindset...
don't know, so what can I do?
Relax and trust your own *growing force*, that will give you all the opportunities
so that you can relate and respond out of your best intention and ability,
being aware of the given situation and so staying in a positive and creative
attitude. Then you will be able to enjoy situations and yourself.
If this turns out
to be a valid answer for you, then out of this there will come more questions
and you can be sure that answers will also come to you in one way or the
other, because - although staying in a critical attitude, - you are open
and you can trust yourself: That what you really are in your *inner being*,
that does not depend on outside conditions, situations, people or what
is everything as is? Can I be guilt free of a self-destructing humanity?
The other day, observing people, I couldn't help but notice the narcissism
in some people. I started thinking of how I used to be like that when I
was younger. I, no longer, am like that and I view it as good. However,
I once was that and the majority of other people are like that. Arrogant,
stupid, historically causing so much pain and suffering. Sometimes I highly
hate humanity because it reveals such a low level of consciousness and
stupidity. I would love it if there were more conscious of everything,
but for some reason I'm not optimistic that it will ever reach that point.
Instead I see humanity on a downward spiral to self-destruction, due to
the environment mostly, which would then in turn cause an anarchic state.
Should I just focus on life as a big game and join the materialism, only
to ignore the pain and suffering of all others? How can I rid myself of
the guilt associated with being human? Sometimes I wish I could just disappear,
with all of humanity, into a state of conscious and heavenly beauty. Lastly,
do you think that humanity would be the same even if all the materialistic,
ego-driven people were eliminated and only people of higher consciousness
were on earth?
James, you are in a conflict and again I must quote Albert Einstein: "One
can't solve a problem out of the same mindset that has caused it!" What
means that you can't find back your balance by using your mind to find
an explication for what disturbs you. The identification with their mindset
keeps people in the limited level of consciousness and that makes it that
they are that arrogant and stupid, with the result of causing destruction
and suffering. You are in the conflict of still holding on this mindset,
but your individual growing urges you to go beyond. So you question yourself
and the situations and conditions around. But as these questions are coming
out of your mindset and when answered are limited to it, so this can't
really help you. That's what is Einsteins saying is about.
To find the answer
and the balance, you have to realize this within yourself, - beyond the
How to do this? For
sure not by making a split hating humanity because of their stupidity and
also not by joining into the materialistic games.
Understand and accept
that humanity is still in a quite primitive state of evolution. At this
step humans are stuck in their identification with their mind and emotions.
They are getting their feeling of existence out of this. So they are acting
and reacting, because they are programmed with goals and values as part
of the common mindset of the present society. This of course includes limitation
and manipulation and has made a 'big game' out of life, where a few clever
people are pushing some buttons and so using all others for their own benefit,
- even making people believe that they are 'philanthropic', probably they
are believing this themselves'! Because they are caught in the same mindset!
Does this make clear, that the most essential and significant is, that
you go beyond yourself and that is the identification with your properties:
Body, mind and emotions.
To do this your daily
life is all what you need. Why is every thing as you encounter it? Because
it is what it is, just that you see every thing out of your personal background
from which you are interpreting it and also comparing with how you would
like it to be and so accepting or rejecting it or trying to manipulate
it so that it fits into your expectation. Right? Observe your pain and
suffering! Now you know where it comes from and you might also be able
to recognize the background and when it happened that you received this
program. Seeing this, you might be able to let go of it...
So freeing yourself
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Just let me tell you
what has happened: I wanted to write this answer, even though I have plenty
of urgent other things to do, - so I started. People came and needed to
talk with me. I continued writing. The van hit one of our cats and she
was seriously hurt, I had to deal with this... I continued writing. An
other interruption. I continued and nearly finished. The fire fox crashed!
And so what I wrote for two hours, disappeared. All lost! I really hate
computers and all what has to do with it!!! This is the most stupid thing
on earth!!! Like this I could have reacted! But actually it was my fault,
knowing about the possibility that this could happen, as it has happened
before, so I should have saved what I was writing. But I was so much sucked
in my doing, that I haven't done it, so I am not wasting my energy giving
the fault to the outside and instead looking for a solution. OK, I made
a 'restore' to an earlier time and after some hassle: Tahtah! It was back!
You see? If I would have gotten lost in my reaction, then indeed it would
have been lost and even willing to write it again (what I hate!) like now
that is much better...
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OK, now you might
see, that no talking can bring you out of your confusion. You need to trust
your own inner *growing force* and accept every thing that shows up in
your life as what it is: part of your reality and see it as a challenge.
Relating and responding with this attitude, will give you the opportunity
to clear up yourself and find new spaces within yourself. I suggest, that
you start with meditation if you are not already doing it. This will give
you the basic to go forward and beyond your mindset. (See links!)
you are saying really helps me out. I'm grateful for your answer even though
you had urgent matters to tend to and I hope your cat is good.
not so sure if what I wrote really helped you. It is obvious that you are
getting your feeling of existence mainly from your identification with
your mind. So it helped you to continue...
The cat had to be
'put down'. The Vet said that the damage was so serious, that there was
no way to help her and she was under strong pain.
know that my conscious wants to become more enlightened and I continue
having questions that probably arise from the mind.
is You who wants to be 'enlightened' and not
your 'consciousness'! You have some ideas and concepts what 'enlightenment'
might be and you are identified with these thoughts. You are holding on
this, as it gives you the feeling of existence and so of course you continue
questions are not questioning higher consciousness and whether it's real
or not, but more so how do I know when I've reached a higher consciousness.
"Why is every thing
as you encounter it? Because it is what it is, just that you see every
thing out of your personal background from which you are interpreting it
and also comparing with how you would like it to be and so accepting or
rejecting it or trying to manipulate it so that it fits into your expectation.
Right? Observe your pain and suffering! Now you know where it comes from
and you might also be able to recognize the background and when it happened
that you received this program. Seeing this, you might be able to let go
So freeing yourself
if I consciously chose to see everything as good and beautiful and it made
me happy in doing so, would I be considered at a higher consciousness or
would I be considered another common man in denial?
are nearly endless tricks to hold and continue being identified with ones
established mindset. This has developed to such extreme sophisticated 'high'
levels, that from there every question can be answered and satisfy your
To see 'every thing
as good and beautiful' is a trick to create a fake reality within the already
so strong established fake reality of our society, similar as the traditional
religious belief concepts are delivering. It is obvious that this old way
of survival technique doesn't really work, but the newer ways also can't
solve the discrepancy between those beautiful concepts and the reality
that one has to encounter in daily life.
is one of my final questions. I really think I'm almost at the end of the
path to a higher consciousness.
James, but what you express here gave me a good laugh! Not about you, but
it tells how easily one can misunderstand every thing that is expressed
by words. I read your other questions at Yahoo Answers and there is no
doubt that you are looking for confirmation for your self image. In one
way or the other you will get it from there, as Y!A is the made play ground
for it. But I don't join this game and so you will need to reject what
I'm telling you or better just ignore it. I don't want to convince you
about any thing, I only answering your questions, that seem to come out
of questioning yourself, as this would be the first step of the beginning
of the path to 'a higher consciousness'. There is no arguing about it.
all honesty I know that you aren't trying to convince me of anything. I,
as consciousness, have chosen to pursue this path out of all others.
'Honesty' you have made as part of your self image and if you want to follow
'the path of consciousness' then you will need to find out about what there
*really* is. I only can repeat myself again and again: The first step on
the path of consciousness would be to question yourself and find out about
what is really there. Human nature is not based on 'honesty', it is based
on 'survival' and for this every thing else is used but for sure not honesty.
That is used as a picture within ones fake reality and when not looking
what is there.
have read many books, from Osho to Tolle, and seen many documentaries such
as "What the bleep do we know", "Spirit Space", and "The Human Matrix".
All those many books and documentaries have built up your mindset. All
in the frame of the established fake reality, just making it more sophisticated
and so the trap is more complex. Hardly possible to get out of it! You
need to pull yourself out of the mud on your own pigtail. I have written
about this lately several times, but it seems nobody understands it or
better said: Nobody wants to understand it, because for this one needs
to be ready to question oneself and willing to give up ones need for self
confirmation and self defense.
have seen the sheer stupidity of mankind myself and do not want to be there
in the future. All connections I see today seem artificial and rarely have
I found a genuine person.
You want to realize a new and different self picture, but you don't want
to see, that you are that what you criticize at the outside and in others.
The 'connections' serve in the first place to confirm each other and so
can be felt as 'artificial'. Only a 'genuine' person can recognize some
one else as being a 'genuine' person, otherwise it is just projecting your
don't want to have to conform but everyone around me has already been conformed.
Every body in this society and in the present state of evolution of mankind,
is trapped in the game of conforming and confirming each other and so getting
the feeling of existence out of it, being totally identified with ones
mindset. That is part of the common social knowledge and understanding
that has created and is holding the picture of our reality. This reality
is the interpretation and mostly misinterpretation, coming out of the low
level state of consciousness of humans.
in an American college that hypes the media.
The 'media' are keeping people busy and occupied, so that they are supported
in their established picture world and even though it is used when people
have their own and opposite opinion or special 'spiritual' views. It doesn't
really matter, standing up or fighting against something, also serves ones
purpose to confirm oneself in ones existence!
just want to live every day like it's my last.
That's a very high pitched goal that you picked up from those books. Better
drop this, it's an elephant shit picture! Don't put yourself under such
stress condition! Taking care of the present moment is enough and that
means: Relating and responding to what shows up in your encounters with
daily reality. - As good as you can. Knowing, that you are programmed and
reacting and responding out of your mostly unconscious background structure.
Be aware of it and that is the only way to clear up your mindset, that
is messed up and has brought you out of balance, so that you can't feel
want to make my family happy.
So I guess you mean something else and not just providing them all material
aspects. The first and most essential condition to be able to make your
family happy, is that you are happy yourself. When you can beam this energy,
that comes out of your own realization and of course not from making the
beautiful concepts of happiness to your own, then you have the base on
which your family will be happy.
see your wisdom through your web site and answers and wish I had what you
have. Not for my own selfish reasons, so I myself could help others.
You are still using the same technique and strategy as always and all around:
Trying to integrate what you pick up and what seems to fit into your already
established property. Then believing, that it is not for the enrichment
of your own personality. Oh boy! It is so easy to trick oneself! You are
doing every thing to survive with your precious personality! Being able
of helping others would even give you the position of at least a 'half
god' and so blow up yourself even more!
I just not supposed to care?
First take care of yourself and get out of the straitjacket of your dream
and picture world, that is your mindset! Recognize the fact that you like
every body, is stuck in ones personality and what ever you do, is part
of your personality game! Whatever!
I used to be happy and just want to be happy again. When I say I used to
be, I'm speaking of my early adolescence and very early childhood.
You have been happy, because you were innocent and naive. Yes, you have
been near to the happiness of just pure *being*, but then you were filled
up with 'knowledge' and all the influences from education and every thing
else around you, becoming an adapted member of our society and so you lost
your innocence. I guess Jesus, - this guy who started 'Christianity', -
said something about 'becoming like little children' to be able to... Then
this was integrated into the Christian belief system and the real meaning
got lost and that was 'to go beyond the identification with ones mind'.
seen a psychologist and what they say I know. - What you say I do not know
and want to know.
It should be clear by now, that what 'I am' can't be transmitted by words
so that you can make it to your own knowledge. I only can give you some
information that you can use to help yourself going beyond your personality
and the games in that you are involved. I am doing my best, so that you
don't use me and what I express for your games and I take the risk, that
out of defense, you will turn against me.
so you know, I am immersed in this media. I am from a suburban area, where
you see it EVERYWHERE. I see how people act and think, it's ridiculous!
I know words fail in getting across the point, but I have no other choice
in my circumstance. That's all I have to say, I hope you can try to emphasize.
Well, I tried. More I can't and I must leave it to you, what you can do
with it. It will depend on your readiness. That shows when you can recognize
your own tricks you are using, for example finding good reasons not to
follow a suggestion, by saying you will start 'soon' what means: probably
never, - so protecting your precious self...
You probably will
need to start with the basic step to get to know your human nature. That
will be difficult, as you see yourself as advanced and to come down to
basics you will not like. Don't forget: You can see me as your friend and
you can ask me whatever! But I understand totally if you avoid me...
we our own enemy?
Asking in this way indicates a negative attitude how you are looking at
yourself and others. You are right, - indeed it looks like as if we are
our own enemies, because we behave in ways that are not favorable at all
for ourselves. We are even destructive, not only damaging our body with
junk food and eating habits that make us sick, filling up our system with
poison and toxins, - we are also doing harm by exposing ourselves to influences
that squeezes our mind into a frame that turns out to be a strait jacket.
We are identified with it and see it as our 'personality' not being aware,
that this is a conglomerate out of misinterpretation and manipulation,
that makes us to puppets, consumer and victims. It seems, that we are our
'own enemy', because we suffer from our limited condition, but at the same
time we are clinging on it. We are stuck in a game with ourselves, that
gives us the feeling of existence, but at the same time holds us tied in
it. It keeps us busy and so gives us a kind of feeling of sense and meaning,
hunting and going for goals and values, that are introduced to us through
the established mindset of this society.
Humanity is stuck
in this still primitive step of evolution and holding on it, - as this
seems to be the most important, so it is causing all the negative results
in our life against we are fighting and giving the fault for it to the
outside, but not looking at ourselves, realizing that we are the cause.
If we could understand
this as a process and that we are in transition, than we wouldn't need
to hold on our 'property' in form of a rigid mindset and we could explore
our existence that of course goes far beyond our present condition. Then
we could become friend with ourselves and with this also come together
with others. Not to be confirmed in our feeling of existence because we
believe or strive for the same common goals, but because we are realizing,
that we are coming and going, being connected to the same *source*.
alone or together with others:
alone or better with others?
When I was thirteen years old I started to have the idea about a place
where people would live together in a different way than in this society.
They would do things they like to do and not just for themselves but for
the well of others. They would express themselves freely and also in an
artistic way. Finding out about themselves as the most important ‘work’
because knowing that we are all in a growing process, to free ourselves
to connect with spaces beyond ourselves. I designed places like this and
years later I studied architecture still with the same vision.
Since I was sixteen
I have been living alone and I felt good to have my undisturbed space.
I was free to do what I wanted; I traveled, studied, worked, met people
and enjoyed my life.
Then life took over
for twelve years with family life, making money, etc. until this finished
and I found a beautiful place in midst of unspoiled nature. I bought this
land and started to realize my dream. The first years I was living alone
with my animals, horse, dogs, cats and chicken. I was working hard but
I was happy, being able to realize my dream and I was building up the place.
Some times alone, some times with paid workers. When the buildings were
finished I offered the place to therapy groups. This went on for a few
years. I still was living alone the most time, because it was difficult
to find people for such a project, except hippies in those days, who wanted
to space out. I was strictly against use of drugs, alcohol and tobacco
and there seemed hardly anybody without. People came, were staying for
some time and then left. This went on for several years and I learned a
lot about human behavior… To make the long story short: I tried for more
than thirty years. Once I wanted to give up and I had sold the place already
with a small down payment, but then the buyer had an accident and I had
to move back. Years past by and again I wanted to give up and offered the
place for someone who would continue with a similar intention. I wanted
to give the place for free, but nobody responded. Probably people thought
this is a trick or I’m crazy. So I continued and sometimes there were times
when up to twenty people were living together and were feeling good, things
worked quite well. But all were traveler and after some time they left,
again a coming and going. That was not what I had imagined. I wanted to
live with a few people with a similar intention, but people were not much
interested, they came to have a good time and to learn something but not
wanting to engage themselves too much. Meanwhile the place is pretty well
organized: There is living space for about twenty people, there is plenty
of food even for more people, there are absolutely no money problems and
there is all the freedom one can dream of.
But still it was not
possible to find people who want to live permanently here. Reading the
various answers here I can understand why, people don't want to relate
much to others, they want to have their space where there is no disturbance
from others, although this is possible here as every body has ones own
living space. But of course there are always difficulties that have to
be resolved. At the moment there is too much work for the few people living
here, but with four/fife people more it would be easy and with four hours
of daily work we could maintain the place, animals and the people here.
The last two years there was a lack of people and work has accumulated,
so we need still to clean up, but the chaos is not worse than somewhere
else… We are working on several projects like distributing information
about meditation or how we call it now: ‘StressReleaseExercise’ and also
we are offering our place to all kind of groups and this for free. One
word more to the money aspect: We don’t deal with money, every thing we
do is because it feels right, we don’t charge and we don’t pay. It really
works! We get all what we need and more… A really exciting experience!
You might ask now
why there are not enough people interested to live permanently there? The
main reason is, that we don’t offer concepts, not spiritual and not religious.
There is no leader or guru or any kind of authority, that’s what people
prefer, but we need people to take self-responsibility. We need people
who are capable to let go of their established concepts and deal with reality
how it shows up, whatever this might be and then respond in a free way,
not just reacting out of their unconscious background or at least being
able to observe their reactions. Most people who come here are bringing
their well-established self-image and concepts with them and then they
want confirmation for this. And this is not what we can give. We can give
space to experience oneself, to work on oneself, etc. but not giving confirmation
for whatever concepts and for sure not for spiritual ones! How many people
came here and then wanted to convince us of their beautiful spiritual concepts!
The last few months
we went to a heavy experience with a kind of ‘troll’ who nearly destroyed
all. Several people left and now there can happen a new beginning or it
might be the end of my intention. The last few weeks I engaged myself in
‘answers.yahoo’ and I enjoyed it. I might continue writing here, but to
do this I don’t need this place, I can do so from everywhere in the world.
Sorry, I'm off the subject.
You might ask now
what was the advantage living together with people vs. living alone. I
can say that I never would have been able to learn so much about human
nature and myself when I would have lived alone. After the many years of
experience with people I must say that I would prefer indeed to live alone
with my animals and my partner. The problem is that this place is too big
and for two people there is too much work just to maintain the place, but
this of course is no reason to continue living with others. I also must
say that I love to be with others, if these are people I can trust and
they are really participating in our intention and not just using the place
for their easy survival. I'm really tired of people who are just using
others. But also it has been a great experience if there are a few people
together working on the same project and apart of this just feeling good
being together, sharing their meals and having some fun together and if
there is a problem showing up, being able to resolve this and supporting
each other. The advantage working together on a project instead of doing
this alone is really significant, apart of that it can be more fun.
I will do now another
intent to find some more people to be able to continue...
About the aspect of
your question 'finding ones peace' I can say that this doesn't depend if
one lives alone or with 'noisy others', It is exactly the intention of
this place 'FalconBlanco' to provide the facilities that one can find ones
own inner peace, then the outside conditions will not disturb ones gained
inner balance. One has the space to explore oneself and finds the trust
to go to new horizons... and it is still my vision to do this in togetherness
with others and not alone. So...
can we make this world a better place to live in.
full of life, full of forgiveness and full of love?
Whatever we try to 'make' it will not work. I have tried this now for more
than fifty years and I came to the result, that it is not the question
of 'making' but *being*. that means, I am only responsible for myself and
need to change myself in the first place. Wanting to change something at
the outside is mostly an excuse not touching oneself, but finding ones
satisfaction by 'making' something to happen. That's an illusion and just
results in turning around oneself.
Resume: To change
the world, we need to change ourselves in the first place. Then maybe 'forgiveness'
and 'love' will be *realized* and not stay as a beautiful image, of that
people are dreaming, but that is not reachable, because they are caught
in their 'personality', in their established mindset and in their daily
life games, - not being able to go beyond and explore spaces beyond their
limited little world they have created for themselves...
- our World:
is wrong with the world?
world we live in now is the result within evolution of mankind in their
growing process as a species. This was all the time ruled by survival needs
and still is in our days. With the mainly used ways of manipulation from
the most clever and strongest individuals. That there is something wrong
about it, we can realize each of us within ourselves, also in our society
as a whole and as well on a global level. Destruction, depression, disease
and suffering all over the place... So something went wrong, what is it?
humans have created a strongly established mindset, that is the result
coming out of interpretation and misinterpretation of all what we have
experienced around us and what we have put in understandable concepts.
These we have made to our property by being identified with and so we are
getting our feeling of existence out of it. It doesn't really matter that
our self confirmation is coming out of a manipulated fake reality in that
we are acting and reacting. All helps to built up our personality and identity.
The problems are showing up, when our self image that is based on our established
fake reality, is clashing against daily reality, that doesn't confirm our
dream and picture world. Then it shows up, that there is 'something wrong'.
happens now is, that humans give the fault for this discrepancy in their
life, to the outside and others. Then trying to use force or other manipulations
to change conditions and circumstances. People have developed different
views and values and all are defending their own way and position. They
are in the position of victims when they loose, fighting against others
or they blow themselves up when they win. Nobody wants to know that this
is still part of their primitive survival game.
what is wrong. People are not happy and even though they suffer, they are
not questioning their condition and they are not capable to take self responsibility.
ALL are in total dependency of their established mindset and that includes
all belief systems and even the most sophisticated spiritual concepts.
are keys offered, but these are mostly ignored or buried under 'thumbs
down', because the established mindset of our society is dominating every
thing and all. That's what is 'wrong' in the world!
can I help the world as fast as possible?
It seems, that nobody wants help if this includes self responsibility and
for example a change in ones life style. Help is only accepted when it
is in the range of ones established mindset and confirms oneself.
I had ask myself the
same question you are asking now and came after more than thirty years
of trying to offer a *key*, so that people are able to help themselves,
- to the result, that people are so much programed in their mindset and
so much identified with it, that they are not capable to do a step beyond.
Not even when they are extremely suffering. They still expect and are open
for help from the outside and the social and medical health system, precisely
that, what has brought them into their desperate condition in the first
place. "You can't solve a problem with the same mindset that has caused
it!" (Einstein) Yes, that's true, if you have a solution for the problems
and with this one needs to go beyond the established mindset, then nobody
is interested. Maybe a very few who are so tired after going through a
life long struggling, realizing that we live in a false reality created
by ourselves, that finally they question every thing and then take the
reigns in their own hands.
One person said: "Market
your *key* and sell it." Yes, this is how it works with any thing that
is produced and then sold in our society and as more expensive you sell,
as more it will be appreciated. But it doesn't work with the *key* you
might want to offer, because it will need a different approach that it
can work: One needs to get out of the attitude as a victim, taking initiative
and self responsibility, - with other words: Getting out of dependency!
At least that is the case with the *key* I have found.
I don't know what
kind of *key* you imagen, - I have the impression that this is a fantasy
and not a real question. To save the world from disease would mean to interfere
into evolution and the process of growing, as there is a good reason for
all results. Better and more real would be to be able to offer a key that
makes disease and deprivation understandable as part of our learning and
so could make it to a creative process, were people are involved with their
own responsibility and motivation...
If you want to know
what I have found out and what I can offer, then you can ask me or look
for an answer at the other answered questions.
When I use the word
*key* then I don't mean a new high pitched sophisticated spiritual concept.
I am giving information and advice about practical things one can use in
daily life and that will further ones growing and healing process. - And
to make it clear: There can't be money involved, because this belongs to
the field we have left behind...
And then this maybe
is part of the answer, coming out of our motivation, initiative and action.
you would ask Melinda Gates?
The Yahoo! News Team
will interview Melinda Gates. As co-chair of the Bill & Melinda Gates
Foundation, she works to help empower people in impoverished areas around
the globe, especially women and children. The foundation has made more
than $23 billion in grant commitments since 1994, giving good reason for
her to be named one of the most powerful women in the world.
What do you want us
to ask this philanthropist, businesswoman, wife, and mom?
BeiYin: Melinda, you are helping
poor people around the globe, not only providing food and better life conditions,
but also helping with their education to empower them. This is great and
it shows that you want to do something where it is most needed and it shows,
that you care for people, - but wouldn't it be much more important and
effective to do something about the *real reason*
why there exist poverty in underdeveloped countries and also poverty and
all kind of suffering in the USA and also in many other countries?
Isn't the *root
cause* for all suffering and all kind of sad conditions on our
globe, that what humans have created and these conditions have become our
'reality' with all the facts and results around? For example, that the
rich people getting more rich and the poor people even poorer and also
that, as one of the many 'side effect', that our environment is destroyed
and so our base of life? Isn't it a fact that people all over the globe
are getting sicker and the number of depression and suicide is rising constantly?
In poor countries people just suffer and die, in 'civilized' countries
people suffer and are kept alive with medication, surgery and other 'sophisticated'
treatments. Isn't it pretty clear that this is not *healing*? Is there
any body doing any thing effective about all this? These conditions are
not changed by a few rich people like you giving money for charity, while
others getting richer because of these conditions...
you like to do something about the root cause of poverty on this planet?
Do you agree that the real poverty is the underdeveloped and stuck evolution
of mankind in our present state of personal growth and consciousness? This
poor state is manifested within the established common mindset, represented
and lived in all countries and shared by all humans. It is the result of
poor interpretation and mostly misinterpretation of reality and has built
up goals, values and concepts, that in it's totality has created a 'fake
reality', separating us all from *truth* and the goal of evolution to grow
into realization of our *real being*.
you like to do something creative about the poor state of this mindset
that is so strongly dominating people in our society and are the real cause
of all our problems?
Would you also do
something, when it goes against the interests of some of the richest people,
who are so rich because they use the limited development of humanity by
manipulating peoples values and goals and so the common mindset, making
them dependent and to slaves of the money making system?
Do you agree with
what Albert Einstein said, that "one can't solve a problem with the same
mindset that has caused the problem?" That would mean you are wanting to
use your money with an intention, that is coming out of your mindset, to
change something that was caused by the same mindset. That's why you spend
money, with the best intention, on treating the symptoms and not the cause,
- and that of course is trying to fill a bottomless barrel!
So, - are you willing
to do something effective about the root cause of humanities stuck evolution?
This is possible!
- What this could be, we can find out and probably this project would need
much less investment from your foundation, than big 'humanitarian help
- - -
We are a group of
friends and we are working on a design for a 'project' that could be used
by your 'Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation', so that you can give your
intention the most impact. We will give the link for it here, when it is
done - or we will present the project later on, personally direct to you
- if this is wanted! (There is no money involved!)
Here you find also
some answers of my friends...
1.) What is your strategy
to make your help the most effective and direct it to those places where
it can have the greatest impact and that without doubt is to go to the
root cause for all problems?
2.) What is your strategy
to find out about the root cause of the bad conditions you want to change
with your help? Are you willing to change then your strategy and go for
more essential goals, even though these might be against the interests
of politicians and other power people?
3.) Do you know about
the fact, that what ever you do and what ever strategy you are using, the
efficiency depends in the first place on the state of consciousness that
is involved for these actions?
4.) Do you know about
the fact, that the consciousness of humanity is limited to the established
common mindset of society and that this mindset is the result of mostly
misinterpretation developed during history of mankind? Do you know, that
this mindset is manipulated and programed by clever people for their own
5.) It is clear, that
nobody can jump over ones own shadow, but are you willing to go beyond
your own established personal mindset? As only then you will be able to
recognize the underlying cause for the conditions you want to change and
only then your help will cause a real impact being the most effective.
6.) Don't you think
it would be a good strategy, first to find out about the limitations of
what and who is involved and then investigating about strategies for doing
something about it, to go beyond these limitations? Don't you think the
first should be yourself, because then this could initiate a positive chain
reaction to all who are participating with a real creative result and so
make the end result, that is the help you are giving, also the best possible.
7.) Don't you think
that actions of help, with the intention to change negative conditions,
is or should be a transformational process, that includes all who are involved?
- Even those here at Yahoo Answers! ;-)
Melinda, I don't want to be mean or negative, for sure not, but I would
like to know your motivation, why you made this foundation? Are you really
a philanthropic business woman? I guess you started this foundation with
the same reason why other big companies are doing it, so they can give
money to their foundation and so reduce their income tax. Making a huge
amount of money feels good, because that is the highest goal and dream
of most people. Right?
You had to spend the
money of your foundation for a good purpose and then you found out, that
this also makes you feel good and of course it is very positive and it
would be good if more people would use their power to help others and not
only to make more money and gain even more power.
Having this foundation
not only gives a better image to your business, it also gives you a self
image that makes you feel better and justifies being unbelievable rich.
So far, so good. Now
comes my question:
Melinda, you know,
that having money and so 'being rich' at the outside, doesn't mean that
also one is rich at ones inside. Are you also rich inside? What is it that
makes you rich within yourself? At the outside you are rich enough and
I guess you are not striving for more, but what are you doing or looking
for to become rich as a human individual?
You are a child of
this society and so you were receiving the education like every body else,
adapting all the goals and values that are part of the established mindset.
One of these goals is to make a lot of money, this you have achieved, as
well that you have a good husband and nice children and every thing you
need in your life and more - . What is it that is still missing?
Might it be that you
got the good taste when helping others, that now you want to achieve even
more? Something that has such a strong impact, that it can change the whole
world? Did you ever had the idea to hit the root cause of why humanity
is in such a miserable condition on all levels? Even coming near to the
destruction of our living space the planet Earth!
There are practical
ways to initiate a transformational process into the lives of every body,
not only through basic education, but this goes against the interests of
the established money making system and so it is hard to find support for
such an intention. I am not talking about religious or spiritual belief
systems, these have failed since centuries, apart of giving an emotional
frame for helpless people, who are underdeveloped in their personal growing.
Do you have any open
question or an urge to find out about it? Because any project you might
want to support, can only go so far as your own conscious level goes...
If you are interested,
we can go further into this. (We are a group of friends, who would like
to support you in your 'philanthropic' intention.)
Rahmona: Melinda, I read at your
Web site about your philanthropic work and your strategies to make your
effort the most beneficial possible. I suppose you are working together
with professionals who find out the best ways. As you have had all your
fantastic success with business strategies, so it might be, that you are
using these also for trying to make your philanthropic work successful.
But you probably know what Albert Einstein said: "One can't solve a problem
with the same mindset that has caused it!"
There is no doubt,
that the common established success thinking, that focus in the first place
on the fulfillment of materialistic and money issues, is the root cause
for the misery and self destructive condition of humanity and also our
living space the Earth.
In consequence: To
make a positive change happen, one must go to the root cause and that is
the established mindset of our society, that is stuck in its condition
and limited to it and totally depending on it.
Your help goes also
in this direction by supporting the 'Khan education', they do a good work,
but they stay at the usual school education and this doesn't go beyond.
We are a group of
friends and we are working on a project to do something about the *root
cause*. If you are interested, we can talk about this. We are not involved
in any money aspects.
This 'Yahoo Team'
question is interesting and can move something, but doesn't bring many
creative answers you can use or can be used in an interview with you. I
suggest, that you ask questions directly here at Yahoo Answers. Even though
you make it very clear that you don't give money to people who ask for
it, you will probably get a lot of answers similar as in this question,
but there are a few people here, they will engage themselves to give you
creative and realistic suggestions. At least my friends and I will do our
best to answer you. I believe it would be a good idea to involve people
outside our foundation into your work.
Your question might
be: "What could be the most effective way to do something for a change
of the miserable conditions of many humans? What is the real root-cause
of humanities misery and self destruction? What can our foundation do about
Edit: Thinking about
that Melinda could ask directly a question here at Yahoo Answers, probably
she doesn't want to read all those extremely poor contributions. So I have
ask this question I mentioned in the same category and some of my friends
will do the same with similar questions in other categories. Then we will
make a selection of the best answers and give the link of a page we will
We should do something
ourselves to make a change happen and not depend on people who might give
some money, - this will support an initiative, but more important is the
initial energy to give it a start!
just read in one of the answers at the Y!A Melinda question: "Bill Gates
declared: First we got population. The world today has 6.8 billion people.
That’s headed up to about 9 billion. Now if we do a really great job on
new vaccines, health care, reproductive health services, we lower that
by perhaps 10 or 15 percent.”
Does this really mean,
that Bill Gates states that he expects vaccines to be used to reduce population
growth? "When Bill Gates speaks about vaccines, he speaks with authority.
In January 2010 at the elite Davos World Economic Forum, Gates announced
his foundation would give $10 billion (circa €7.5 billion) over the
next decade to develop and deliver new vaccines to children in the developing
I don't want to do
an interpretation of this, but if this is true, than this would mean to
intentionally cause disease to reduce population! Doing this pretending
to be philanthropic is part of the common dirty game. Is it possible that
Melinda doesn't know about it? Or that she just ignores it, so that she
can keep her beautiful self image of being 'philanthropic'?
I would ask her about
And then maybe pointing
out, that a real help about our miserable world situation, over population
included, would be to do something about the root cause and that is the
stuck and low level of our consciousness. Doing something to rise this
would be the most beneficial for all, even for those who now make their
big fortune by using the dump and dull condition of people.
To go for this, it
might be the most necessary and important that Melinda rises her own consciousness...
But this might be too personal to touch!
we need a new kind of leader in the world?
would they need to have? What kind of person could we trust?
You will not like to hear it, but we have exactly the kind of leader we
deserve. They are representing us and our state of consciousness. That
is the mentality of sheep. These of course need a leader and watchdogs,
- to be able to do what is the most important for them: To eat, to sleep
and to copulate, without needing to think, because they are always told
what and what not to do.
people beside of what sheep need, have more wishes and demands they are
striving for. People want to be happy...
You are right: Sheep are just happy, not asking for more. People want entertainment
and excitement, they want to see 'meaning' in what they are doing...
And the same shows
up in our society: It is the manifestation of our state of evolution and
that is obviously still on a primitive level. About this there can't be
any doubt when we look around and observe our world and people and the
big mess that they have created...
The leader coming
out of this dump and dull society are on the same level, they are just
more clever and know how to manipulate others, using the same tricks that
are common, creating needs and then fulfilling these. Making people
to brave consumer of articles or beliefs. That keeps the sheep busy and
in dependency and so the benefit for the clever ones is guarantied.
I agree, our society is corrupted and is based on primitive survival needs.
The leader are using this and keep us on this primitive level for their
own benefit. So we must change them!
Now you give the fault for the misery that is showing up all around to
the leader, wanting to change them! Now I remember the story about a roman
emperor who was ask why he keeps all those fat deputies around him and
not change them for others. Nero answered: "Those that are now during years,
grown fat and rich, they do their job the same as new ones will do it,
only that these will take and steal from me until they are also fat and
rich! So I prefer to keep the old ones..."
So we can conclude,
that this will be the same for new leader and it is useless to ask for
characteristics they should have, as these will not be different than before
and it depends all on the people they are leading.
there have been leader in human history who were advanced and more aware
than the mass of people and people even liked them...
Yes, there have been several. With the tragical result that then they were
eliminated and the system went back to the used level. - Remember Gandhi,
Martin Luther King, Kennedy, Muhyun Roh and other...
So then what would be the 'characteristics' of people so that
as a result will have a new kind of leader?
That you can answer yourself, as it easy to describe, although difficult
people should get out of dependencies and be responsible for their life
and their doing, they should be more critical about what is offered from
society and those clever guys who use peoples dullness for their benefit
and not caring about others, getting more and more power, becoming more
and more rich and destroying our world...
Again your are giving the fault to the outside and others! Look at yourself!
Those 'clever guys' are only using the conditions as an opportunity to
do the same as every body would do if they would have the power and knowledge,
but you are giving them the chance with your behavior and innocence. And
that is your low level of awareness!
So then what can be done to rise this level?
Maybe people should think about, why they need a leader... That means looking
at themselves and questioning themselves. Then asking questions, - not
just to receive confirmation for what they are already know, but to enter
into new spaces, even though they might need to enter into unknown fields,
what they usually try to avoid...
Yes, this will be difficult, because the 'unknown' is felt as scary. What
can people give motivation to ask questions and to doubt their own existence?
There is hardly any thing that is left 'unknown' because there are explications
for every thing, at least it is an interpretation that makes one think
that one knows what it is. If it is not based on facts, then a belief will
do the same and that is giving a certain security and the feeling of sense
and meaning, in so far protecting oneself from the 'unknown'.
The feeling of sense and security seems to be the most important and logic
obviously doesn't count. What can motivate people out of their own will
and decision, to leave this feeling by questioning themselves?
Indeed, this is an obstacle that holds most people in their dump and dull
state of awareness and only when they have been running against walls and
fighting long enough, then when they are really tired of their suffering,
then there might come the moment, when they are ready to question themselves
and their existence.
What happens then?
Even before people have doubts about the given goals and values they are
trying to accomplish, they are under stress, because daily reality are
full of obstacles and so they are using the many substitutes that are available
in this society and part of the daily habits, like taking coffee, tobacco,
drugs, alcohol, tranquilizer and other things. These makes them even more
dump and dull, making it even more difficult to get out of it, as often
their will power is broken down.
Yes, we can observe this around us and see the misery that this is causing.
But what about those people who are lost but not drown into substitutes
and finally are questioning themselves and also the given conditions? From
where are coming real and valuable answers?
Good question. Sorry, I need something to drink...
You are serious?
course not, I was just joking. Let's come back to your question: From where
might come *real* answers? - - -
Yes, tell me...
OK, here it goes: A *real* answer only can come from deep inside of yourself,
after you have turned off being sucked by the outside and being occupied
with yourself, That means turning around your thoughts and feelings and
also your body sensations.
How can I do this? That seems to be impossible!
It is much easier than you can imagine. It is called *meditation* and is
a practice used since thousands of years. You can do it just after you
watched the video I have made about it, go to:
Or to the Web
page with the advice how to practice this exercise.
If you have any problem
when practicing, then just ask me about it.
That sounds great and I will go there. Thank you! How much is it?
It was a pleasure to answer your questions! - Every thing I give is for
free, you just need to do it! Go and heal yourself...
I really give up my German Shepherd?
The best for him without doubt, is that he is with you. You found each
other and under what ever circumstances, you should do all you are capable,
to stay together. See all difficulties as a challenge and part of your
personal growing process. You are confronting reality and in this you learn.
He is with you and will support you as a faithful friend you can trust
more than any human...
I am talking out of
experience. Many years ago I met a German shepherd, an older lady couldn't
keep after her husband died. So I took him. I tell you: There have been
a lot of incredible difficulties, but I kept him and indeed, he became
my best friend and we had a very good time together. I wouldn't have want
to miss him anymore and we were together for more than twelve years, until
he died in my arms, - but he is still with me...
So stay with your
dog! Make your parents understand the importance this has for you and that
you will love them even more, if they can understand and accept this.
What I want to express
is, that your dog has an important meaning not only for you but also for
your life. That means for example, that you need to work on your relationship
with your parents and that you learn how to relate and response to your
father. Understanding that you need to see him not only as your father,
but also a person independent from yourself and so accepting his specific
character. Now doing your best to make him understand your position. So
that you come nearer to him. Your dog has helped you to go for this! Do
you understand what I want to say? That's what is 'life' about and your
dog is an important part of it!
happened when you tried a Ouija Board?
About fifty years
ago I used the Ouija board because I had some questions nobody could answer
me. The result was astonishing and in this time I thought that it was an
entity that was answering from another level. Anyway the given messages
made sense to me and pointed my search into a positive and creative direction.
The benefit influenced my whole life. At this time I didn't know about
the 'ideomotor' effect and that probably my own unconsciousness was responding.
The 'ideomotor effect' is a psychological phenomenon wherein the Quija
board user makes motions unconsciously guided by ones own unconscious background.
Later I used 'automatic writing' with the same astonishing result. But
there came the moment when I had to watch out not to became dependent.
Later I learned to use my intuition in a similar way, for example when
I had to make decisions. That means that I could go beyond my personality
and connect with my source...
Looking back I can
say that using the Quija board was a help in guiding me into the right
direction, but I believe that the use can also be dangerous and I would
not suggest the use for every body. For sure it is not a game...
The 'source' is within
each of us, we just need to connect with it in a conscious way, we need
to be aware of it and open ourselves, then the separation will vanish and
we will live in abundance... then our life will change from a miserable
state of being, struggling and suffering, confused and desperate, looking
for happiness, - into a state where we can be creative and enjoy receiving
abundance from the 'source'.
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